Relationship

Recently there had been a march around Pakistan for the rights of women, which were boasted around, made fun of and what not. And as this was still hot on the stove, my husband sent me a text asking my opinion about it.

What kind of fight have we plunged ourselves in. Allah has made us into man and woman. The roles that are assigned to us are different as a man and a woman. Allah has made the relationship between a husband a wife a beautiful one. He calls them ‘libas‘ (clothing) for each other. And I don’t think there can be any other beautiful word for describing it. Libas ;something we wear to cover ourselves, something we wear to beautify ourselves with, something we wear to protect ourselves with like an armor. SubhanAllah such a pretty definition of what our spouses are for us.

Allah has assigned different duties onto men and women in this world. For fulfillment of those duties we are not answeable to our other half as much as we are to Allah. The flaw of our society is that we have not completely shunned the colonial mindset nor that of Hindus whom we lived with for hundreds of years… We need to get out of that and completely submit to Allah to be able to free ourselves from the petty issues of who will warm up the food and who will cook it.

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Death: A Wakeup Call

So much has been written about death and it being inevitable that whatever that I am going to write here may not seem something new.

A few weeks ago, an extended family membet succumbed to the deadly disease of breast cancer. She had been fighting it for over an year; when she found out about it, she was already stage four. She was just 35 and had lost a son to brain tumor a couple of months back! Though all of us knew what she is heading for, we all hoped that she could buy more time for herself. I didn’t see her much but she was there at weddings and dawats and I remember her ever smiling beautiful face. I just couldn’t get it out of my mind. I thought about her other kids, her mother and father and a heavy weight just settled down my chest. Some deaths just leave you heavy with sadness…

And last week, the heaviness, the sadness thickened when I recieved the message that Junaid Jamshed passed away in a plane crash. I couldn’t believe it!!! His passing away was… is like as if someone in my family has died. I never met him, never talked to him. Though I don’t want to say it but I grew up listening to his songs and memorizing them and then I quit listening to music and he stopped singing… I used to listen to his nasheeds… I had differences with him on so many levels and I don’t know why but Allah Subhanahu wa Taala had put love for him in my heart ( not the kind of love we see today but a kind of love that one Muslim has for another), that his sudden passing came as a shock, that I prayed for him in my Salah. I know someone was criticizing him last night about something, and I couldn’t help thinking that if this person had such a problem with his way of doing things, why didn’t he do something about it. I was saddened even more and angered that now that he is gone, can we not pray for him. Would we not like someone praying for us when we are no more just because we were their fellow Muslim brother/sister in Islam. I prayed for every departed soul of the plane crash but why Junaid Jamshed came in limelight is because he was a household figure, he was in our lives by one means or another.

And admist all this is Aleppo!!! It will forever be etched in our book of deeds that all we did was share facebook posts about Aleppo and didn’t lend a helping hand to those dying in the streets of Syria. A bunch of people being bombed by Syria’a Assad’s forces and his allies and we watched from the comfort of our houses doing nothing. The images coming of babies being killed or pulled out of rubble, men and women dying and hospitals being bombed and the ladies asking if they can commit suicide before Bashar Assaad’s men rape and kill them, of men asking if they can kill their kin before Assaad’s forces torture them and play around their dead bodies, are just too heart wrenching. This breaks my heart and puts things in perspective too… why am I always complaining when I have warm bed, food on the table. My kids were sick and then I fell ill, I remember how claustrophobic things became for me with sick kids and no end in sight but what of the mothers of Syrian children, or teenagers or men and the never ending bombardment and firing and fear and I feel that my troubles weigh nilly willy on that scale. I saw a footage of a mother asking her dying son to recite shahadah and repeating again and again that,’ darling! Say LA ILAHA ILLALLAH’ and made me feel so small and so shallow. I am nothing compared to them. I do not have that level of imaan that can stand such test. May Allah make it easier for them.

Death, that we defer to think about or that we think will only come to us when we are old and have prepared for the Hereafter. Recent turn of events show us that we do not know when will it come and how will we die. I haven’t prepared much in this regard… I am.not prepared at all… I do not have one good deed that will ensure a safe passage to Jannah and what if on the Day of Judgement, I stand in front of my Lord and He asked me about my brothers and sisters in Islam in Syria, Palestine, Sudan or Kashmir or Myanmar, what answer will  I have up my sleeve.

Death will come to us all but let us strive to be the person to whom death shall bring glad tidings rather than sad demise.

‘Maut ko samjhein hain ghafil ikhtetam-e-zindagi

Hai ye sham-e-zindagi, subh-e-dawam-e-zindagi’

Leap Year

I was going through my page, which I don’t usually, and found out I rarely write now unless it is a big eventor something. I guess having kids around don’t give you enough time to concentrate and write because you are constantly being distracted. Anyhow, tjis was a leap year, and it did create a lot of ripples around Pakistan; Mumtaz Qadri was hanged, and Sharmeen Obeid Chinoy won an oscar. You might have guess by now that I am here to create some ripples too…

Anyway, I am not going to dwell on whether whatever Qadri did was right or wrong or if he is going to hell or heaven and stuff. I am just going to dwell on the scene set up by everyone around. Strange as it is when Saulat Mirza was about to be executed, we saw long debates on the television screens, his last moments, his confessions, his wife and later everything was aired on live television. But this time around it was all hushed up and it seems as if being brushed under the carpet. Why was there a need to do an execution with such secrecy and hushed tones? One might wonder what is cooking that this was to be done with such urgency. I would call it urgency because the reason behind the whole Taseer murder case was one lady and she still has her case pending for soo many years! Anyway, people have reacted as we would have expected but the reaction not being shown on the television shows that something really is fishy. Anyhow, this is what happens when the leaders are corrupt, the judicial system is flawed and justice is denied or delayed! All I am going to say is that his execution has set motives and there is something really fishy going on behind the camera!

About the Oscar winning spree, I agree that Pakistan has its problems and issues but the only issues the ‘white browns’ highlight are either women being subjected to violence, rape and are not allowed education and we have people like Chinoy, Malala and Mukhtara Mai in the global picture. We don’t see any doctors, teachers or social workers anywhere. It is weird that the women’s protection bill is being passed in Punjab where the rural population is slave to Chaudhries and Waderas and they are not allowed to get even proper education! Remember how they corrupted Hudood Ordinance bill, that the rape victim has to provide four eye witnesses and all other evidences(medical, etc.) were invalid, giving the rapist more free hand than justice to the victim! The idea is that the amendments of all these laws only provide the powerful with freedom to do anything and victim doesn’t get any justice. The laws are made for poor people only, whereas, rich are above the law! I just do not understand the fact that when we fail to change the whole system from way up to the grass roots, how can  we be able to say that passing a bill will make all tge difference!?

And people do not realize that implementing the law of Allah will make things smoother and it will give justice to everyone.

Insomniac

I don’t know why but the feeling of butterflies in my stomach, the racing heart rate and the constant buzzing of my brain is not letting me have enough sleep. What has happened which is making me so fidgety and so anxious? He was about to be hanged but the whole poltical scenario changed after his confession was aired on the television and not only that, he named big names who were involved in drenching the soil with the blood of innocent people.

It was an anticipated event because Altaf Hussain, the leader of MQM, denied ever talking to him or knowing him and hence what would have been the reaction of those who support MQM… but alas we will never know I guess. But this has indeed created doubts and questions in the minds of those who support them that how far will he go in order to protect himself. Will he deny ever having a contact with the Rabta Committee too?

It is not just about Saulat Mirza, it is about the generations of murderers and target killers that were produced; will there be no justice for the innocent lives that were brutally murdered because MQM had differences with them? A lot of questions are raised with it. Who raised these people? Who trained them? When intelligence agencies, military forces and other law enforcement agencies had proofs and they know how their network runs, why was there such a delay? Why a military government provided for them and why did they allow them to hold a militant wing? How were they able to steal from NATO containers and why didn’t Musharraf do anything about them? Why, suddenly, military has this intense desire to get rid of them? A very valid question would be, Why were they allowed to make a militant wing and why was military not concerned about innocent people dying everyday? Why is it that the law enforcement agencies do not give a damn about the common man?

I can’t sleep. My mind is wide awake and thinking too much and I can’t just stop thinking about it…

Double Standards

And the song blared on the smart phone of my husband;

‘Barda Dushman bana phirrta hai!’

And I kept thinking about the medressah kids that died in a drone attack; the kids that were burnt by white phosphorus by the Musharraf regime! My heart bleeds for the kids that died in Army Public School. I imagine myself in the shoes of those mothers and I can’t imagine the pain they must be feeling every second of everyday. But at the same time, I cannot forget the mothers of the drone victims and the fact that they go through the same thing. Does this very song make one class more equal than the other? I must say, to me, it seems so. Kids, killed in the name of zarb-e-azb or in the name of revenge, I see those, who target them, as villians, murderers and terrorists, be it those who wear uniform or those who do not.

A lot of questions have been raised with the Peshawar incident but I wont dwell on that but I think the CM of KPK, the Army Chief and DG ISI should have resigned and accepted that it was their fault that this kind of incident had happened when they were incharge. Making songs wont make it up to the flaws and loopholes in their plans, but rather makes it seem as if they are not yet serious about it all. As if this song will do justice to the dead. And by the way, on a positive note, this song will comply more to thie children of Gaza, who die everyday and are killed and targeted just because they are Arabs, Palestinians and Muslims. What happened in APS, happens everyday there, and we do not consider that a part of our world. How can we…  we cannot even give the same response to the victims of drones as to the children of APS. Thank you ISPR for creating a class divide that the kids of armed forces are more equal than those of ‘bloody civillians’.

And there is nothing wrong with the shadi affair of the Khan or is there? That is the question! Nikah in Islam is supposed to be an “announcement” and not a secret affair. Allah has made Nikah very honorable and not something to be rediculed. I just have one issue: when Khan said that he has nothing to hide then why was there a need to make it into a conspiracy?!

And the most important of it all was the way Charlie Hebdo was carried out. How can one person always keep a passport when going for something like this? 9/11 rings in my ears at this all. Anyway, to sum things up all I would like to say is that Muslims tend to be a soft target when it comes to that. It has been happening since for ever and they do it delibrately in the name of ‘freedom of expression’, knowing that it is not freedom of expression when you cannot say a word against Holocaust and say everything about Islam because jews are more equal than the rest of the world!

Why I Am Not Supporting Imran Khan

I am sure the title must have made everyone believe that I am supporting Nawaz Sharif but unfortunately to their dismay that certainly is not the case. The media and social media wars are at their best right now and the kind of language the educated class is using, makes everyone question their education. Anyway, the reasons why I am not supporting Imran Khan are;

He talks about Quran, the model of state of Madinah, Sunnah of the Prophet (pbuh) at the dharna and soon after you hear this blaring music and people would start dancing. It is, to me, like making fun if shariah. How can two of these things be together. Did the sahabiyat and the sahabas danced in Madina in front of their na-mehrams? Anyway, even if I oversee it, I don’t see the shariah (like in the state of Madina) being implemented in KPK where his party is ruling!

His actions seem contradictory to his words of the model of Madina and the Life of Prophet (pbuh) when the education system in KPK has removed the chapters regarding the lives of Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) and his companions from their text books. ‘kia zamanay mein panapnay ki yehi baatein hain’

Yesterday he burnt his electricity bill in front of everyone of his grand residence at Bani Gala. This was him being a reactionary rather than being a proactive leader. Even if the power supply of his residence is cut off, no one will go through any difficulty in his family. He doesn’t have old parents, sick toddlers or kids at home that if there’s no water in the tap, the wife wont nag him. Imagine living in a small apartment with poor ventilation, with kids and old parents and no power( because you burnt your electricity bill). This is how one is distant with the ground reality that instead of actually providing with the solution, they are provided with more problems. IK, you have youth’s support why don’t you do something innovative rather than doing meaningless things.

I have been the student of media and I know that these so called free media channels are not there to provide you with reality and Truth but is there to show you tarnished events and things in order to change the way you think and to form your opinions. Like George Orwell said that these are propaganda factories where they follow those who are their investers. The air time and the time given to the programs discussing these dharnas is unlimited, one wonders what is behind all that. (Yesterday, there was a rally of JI in bahawalpur, and the media didn’t as much give it a few second’s coverage!) I guess we all know that these propaganda factories are run to change ones’ mindset!

Anyhow, how can he let the people, he bashed yesterday, to stand with him. Sheikh Rasheed has been an ally of Musharraf and Imran Khan, who is against everything Mushy gave to Pakistan, has no issue with him now. Shah Mehmood Quraishi, a gaddi nasheen, will he implement shariah law?

I am not pro-PMLN, NOR PRO-PPP, NOR PRO-MQM, and nor Pro-ANP. I want this system changed but the kind of change PTI is offerring, it’s quite tragic as well and not the kind of tabdeeli that will actually be a tabdeeli towards a better Pakistan!

Slavery

Mental slavery or perhaps the ‘hindu mindset’, that prevails in our society, makes us see men we idealise as gods, who cannot err. The recent events in our political scenario is enough to convince anyone that, yes, we are suffering from ‘personality cult’ syndrome. The PLM-N and PTI supporters cannot and will not ever hear anything against their leaders. Same is the case with other parties in which MQM and PPP are also top of the list. Same goes for the religious parties.
The disease is quite understandable as far as rural areas are concerned as the population there has either access to no or little education plus they are not even allowed to think against the wishes of the zameendars, and waderas there. Plus since these people have lived under the slavery of a few families for centuries, their subconscious and conscious selves cannot just forgo these mental chains and breathe freely in open air as it might just kill them.
But is education the only solution to this problem? The same trend in the educated class of the urban areas negate it. The educated lot also cannot and does not tolerate anyone who do not support their political or religious ideals. The continous pinpointing at ‘the other’ group, the hate speech and the character assassination of other’s leaders show that, we, as a nation, never actually came out of the ‘hindu mindset’. The reverence one feels and shows for their leader is more crucial and important than their faith in Allah because we feel that, ‘my leader is above every bad act and decision and can never be wrong and shouldn’t be questioned.’ Plus if you do not disagree than you are an enemy or a kafir. The very unquestionable following of a leader, be it political or religious, has only created gaps, cracks and hatred in our society.
The current scenario in which some leaders are asking for political reforms and thinking about bringing in a revolution, do not realise that the whole process of revolution does not revolve around people singing, and dancing, and claiming to do one thing one day and other on another day. Revolution will come after we let go of the mental chains of blindly following humanbeings and turn to follow the One that frees us from human worshipping and that we may be able to ask our leader how come you had a whole tableful of breakfast whilst we begged for food in the streets.