Relationship

Recently there had been a march around Pakistan for the rights of women, which were boasted around, made fun of and what not. And as this was still hot on the stove, my husband sent me a text asking my opinion about it.

What kind of fight have we plunged ourselves in. Allah has made us into man and woman. The roles that are assigned to us are different as a man and a woman. Allah has made the relationship between a husband a wife a beautiful one. He calls them ‘libas‘ (clothing) for each other. And I don’t think there can be any other beautiful word for describing it. Libas ;something we wear to cover ourselves, something we wear to beautify ourselves with, something we wear to protect ourselves with like an armor. SubhanAllah such a pretty definition of what our spouses are for us.

Allah has assigned different duties onto men and women in this world. For fulfillment of those duties we are not answeable to our other half as much as we are to Allah. The flaw of our society is that we have not completely shunned the colonial mindset nor that of Hindus whom we lived with for hundreds of years… We need to get out of that and completely submit to Allah to be able to free ourselves from the petty issues of who will warm up the food and who will cook it.

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Guilt

As more videos come from the war stricken Aleppo, I fail to see at them without the guilt of having food on my table, sleeping safely and living without the constant fear of being bombed. And above all I feel guilty that I am not able to do a single thing for them, not able to stop it, not able to make things easy for them.

As a Muslim, I feel ashamed of not being able to do nothing for my Muslim brother in distress… under opression.

Aleppo!!! I wish I could physically punish those who are doing this to you! I wish I were able to pull you out of this mess! I wish I'd be able to help you in any way and every way I can!

Leap Year

I was going through my page, which I don’t usually, and found out I rarely write now unless it is a big eventor something. I guess having kids around don’t give you enough time to concentrate and write because you are constantly being distracted. Anyhow, tjis was a leap year, and it did create a lot of ripples around Pakistan; Mumtaz Qadri was hanged, and Sharmeen Obeid Chinoy won an oscar. You might have guess by now that I am here to create some ripples too…

Anyway, I am not going to dwell on whether whatever Qadri did was right or wrong or if he is going to hell or heaven and stuff. I am just going to dwell on the scene set up by everyone around. Strange as it is when Saulat Mirza was about to be executed, we saw long debates on the television screens, his last moments, his confessions, his wife and later everything was aired on live television. But this time around it was all hushed up and it seems as if being brushed under the carpet. Why was there a need to do an execution with such secrecy and hushed tones? One might wonder what is cooking that this was to be done with such urgency. I would call it urgency because the reason behind the whole Taseer murder case was one lady and she still has her case pending for soo many years! Anyway, people have reacted as we would have expected but the reaction not being shown on the television shows that something really is fishy. Anyhow, this is what happens when the leaders are corrupt, the judicial system is flawed and justice is denied or delayed! All I am going to say is that his execution has set motives and there is something really fishy going on behind the camera!

About the Oscar winning spree, I agree that Pakistan has its problems and issues but the only issues the ‘white browns’ highlight are either women being subjected to violence, rape and are not allowed education and we have people like Chinoy, Malala and Mukhtara Mai in the global picture. We don’t see any doctors, teachers or social workers anywhere. It is weird that the women’s protection bill is being passed in Punjab where the rural population is slave to Chaudhries and Waderas and they are not allowed to get even proper education! Remember how they corrupted Hudood Ordinance bill, that the rape victim has to provide four eye witnesses and all other evidences(medical, etc.) were invalid, giving the rapist more free hand than justice to the victim! The idea is that the amendments of all these laws only provide the powerful with freedom to do anything and victim doesn’t get any justice. The laws are made for poor people only, whereas, rich are above the law! I just do not understand the fact that when we fail to change the whole system from way up to the grass roots, how can  we be able to say that passing a bill will make all tge difference!?

And people do not realize that implementing the law of Allah will make things smoother and it will give justice to everyone.

Slavery

Mental slavery or perhaps the ‘hindu mindset’, that prevails in our society, makes us see men we idealise as gods, who cannot err. The recent events in our political scenario is enough to convince anyone that, yes, we are suffering from ‘personality cult’ syndrome. The PLM-N and PTI supporters cannot and will not ever hear anything against their leaders. Same is the case with other parties in which MQM and PPP are also top of the list. Same goes for the religious parties.
The disease is quite understandable as far as rural areas are concerned as the population there has either access to no or little education plus they are not even allowed to think against the wishes of the zameendars, and waderas there. Plus since these people have lived under the slavery of a few families for centuries, their subconscious and conscious selves cannot just forgo these mental chains and breathe freely in open air as it might just kill them.
But is education the only solution to this problem? The same trend in the educated class of the urban areas negate it. The educated lot also cannot and does not tolerate anyone who do not support their political or religious ideals. The continous pinpointing at ‘the other’ group, the hate speech and the character assassination of other’s leaders show that, we, as a nation, never actually came out of the ‘hindu mindset’. The reverence one feels and shows for their leader is more crucial and important than their faith in Allah because we feel that, ‘my leader is above every bad act and decision and can never be wrong and shouldn’t be questioned.’ Plus if you do not disagree than you are an enemy or a kafir. The very unquestionable following of a leader, be it political or religious, has only created gaps, cracks and hatred in our society.
The current scenario in which some leaders are asking for political reforms and thinking about bringing in a revolution, do not realise that the whole process of revolution does not revolve around people singing, and dancing, and claiming to do one thing one day and other on another day. Revolution will come after we let go of the mental chains of blindly following humanbeings and turn to follow the One that frees us from human worshipping and that we may be able to ask our leader how come you had a whole tableful of breakfast whilst we begged for food in the streets.

Just a Thought

Will our  ibaadah and saums be accepted if we don’t have the courage to stop such barbarism?

Where is ISIS, Taliban, Hizb ut tahrir, etc.??? Where are the leaders of the Muslim world? Where are the Grand Muftis? WILL YOU LET THOSE POOR PALESTINIANS BURN AND DO NOTHING?

Freedom

Freedom? What is freedom? What is freedom of expression? Are these terms relative? Do they have different meaning for some people, and different for others? How do you define terms that men have made soo complicated just so that they can get whatever they want? Which definition would you want to adapt yourself to? The classic version? The modern or the Post modern version? Soo many versions of just a simple question or is it just a simple question?

Anyway, so what is obscenity? The definition again would come under heavy discussion as to what really is obscenity. The trouble with our media and our so-called liberals is that they have become so much delusional and are suffering from such critical identity crisis that they have forgotten that we do not have to exhaust ourselves into the debate of what is allowed and what is not.

Whatever that is happening today around the world and in Pakistan, it just breaks my heart. We see people around us who would talk about how we shouldn’t have law of blasphemy in Pakistan and how it is cruel and everything and it is sad that the very people would not open their lips about the cartoonists and the movie makers who think they have every right to do whatever they are doing. Such hypocrisy. Do these people think that we should remove this very law and put those blasphemous cartoons and movies on a show for the people of Pakistan( in the name of freedom of expression, of course). Instead we should have a law to put people on trial who say a word against the¬†Holocaust, Europe has it, why not us.

It is ironic that though we live in the Post modern world, the boundaries have become more distinct when we put people into categories, specially Muslims. The fundamentalists, or the liberals and the middle section that was there some decades back, has become extinct. Whatever that is happening around us, either good or bad or in that grey area, is what is shaping us inside out. If we feel for Muslims around us,or if we don’t care what’s happening, every moment, every day, every event, everything is effecting us in so many different ways that we are either ending up becoming “the liberals” or the “fundamentalists”.

It’s been 11 years since 9/11 and since then thousands of innocent civilians, women and children have lost their lives in the name of the freedom that the US deludes itself in practicing. What kind of freedom have they provided to the people of Afghanistan, or Iraq? Freedom from this world perhaps.

 

Dead?

Something happened that made me wonder; we live in our own little bubbles. We, in this age of global village , live lives as if we are all islands, disconnected, not effected and certainly not moved by whatever that is happening outside the boundaries of our little homes. We talk about change, and “tsunamis” and “revolution” yet we are not willing to sacrifice even our time to the very cause we think we believe in. Or are we?

I’m saying all this because this is exactly what is happening in our society. Whatever that is happening in Waziristan right now, or districts of Lyari in Karachi, Syria, Afghanistan, Iraq, or Palestine, how does it effect us? Do we think about them for more than two seconds? Do we even care about them more than posting a picture of it, or updating our status about it on facebook? Does it effect our lives in anyway? I don’t think so. We keep on living our lives the way we are living them, full of distractions and entertainment and we think we can bring a revolution without sacrificing our lives, careers, luxurious lifestyles just by clicking and wasting away in front of our laptop screens. We are not willing to do more than that and we believe we are doing sooo much.

Revolution, change and every word related to it looks nice and everything but the reality is much more brutal. The situation in our homeland and in the Muslim world is almost out of control. We have people who would sacrifice their lives for their leaders, but they will not unite under the one banner of Pakistan, let alone Islam. We should be ashamed of ourselves for not even feeling a pang in our hearts for those who are dying in streets everyday by stray bullets, target killers or by drones. How can we feel for the Muslims of other countries when we don’t care about the people who live around the corner from our own houses.

Do we feel for the kids that die in Waziristan by drones? Or the families that are lost in that beautiful valley of Swat? Or those who are a target in Karachi? Or any other part of Pakistan? If not how are we supposed to call ourselves alive when we are no better than the dead.